What is the ex-gay movement?
Former homosexuals are the last invisible minority group in America. The ex-gay movement is a civil rights movement to ensure the safety and inclusion of former homosexuals in all realms of society, and supports the ex-gay community’s equal access to all public venues. Ex-gays and their supporters should not have to be closeted for fear of other’s negative reactions or disapproval. Former homosexuals do not think something is wrong with them because they decided to fulfill their heterosexual potential. Nor do they believe others should condemn them for the personal decision they have made for their lives. Full diversity must include the ex-gay community.
Aren’t some people born gay?
We have all heard of individuals who entered homosexuality later in life after marrying and having children with an opposite-sex spouse. No scientific evidence has established a genetic cause for homosexuality or found a “gay gene.” There is no DNA or medical test to determine if a person is homosexual. Sexual orientation is a matter of self-affirmation and public declaration. “Gay” is a self-chosen identity. According to the American Psychiatric Association, there are no replicated scientific studies to support that people can be born “gay” or that homosexuality is innate.
According to the American Psychological Association, “[a]lthough much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors.” 
This irrational phobia toward those who have overcome unwanted same-sex attractions perpetuates misunderstanding and harm against the ex-gay community. It also demonstrates a disregard for diversity and a refusal to respect a basic human right to dignity and self-determination.
Why would anyone choose to leave homosexuality when there is so much discrimination against the ex-gay community?
Because of the abuse heaped upon them by society, former homosexuals experience discrimination at every level. When a former homosexual marries an opposite sex partner, that ex-gay is ridiculed by former friends. Ex-gays find heterosexuals also reject them if their past is known because “Once gay, always gay” is assumed. While gays can come out of the “closet,” ex-gays are forced to stay in theirs because they are bullied into silence. Ex-gays are criticized and face life-long intolerance for simply existing as living proof that homosexuality is not innate. Americans need to face the real issue of bigotry — oppression of ex-gays.
Do I have to dislike ex-gays if I have gay friends or family?
No! You can have friends who are gay and other friends who are ex-gay. Befriending the ex-gay community does not mean that you are being disloyal to the gay people you know and love.
I’m happy being gay, so why should gays change their sexual orientation?
Change is only for those with unwanted same-sex attractions. What makes you happy may not make someone else happy because we are all individuals. Please respect other people’s decisions for their lives. Ex-gays can testify to the fact that those with unwanted homosexuality deserve the right to self-determination and happiness based on their own needs, and not the demands of others. According to the American Psychological Association, “[m]ental health organizations call on their members to respect a person’s right to self-determination.” (2008)
Why must ex-gays be included in sexual orientation topics?
Ex-gays must be included in the formation of public policy because we have much to contribute to the understanding of sexual orientation. Without testimony from all sectors of society, public policy on this issue is seriously flawed.
Former homosexual men and women, as well as their friends and family, feel threatened because they are subjected to a hostile environment if they publicly claim their former homosexuality or support of the ex-gay community. Courageous men and women who have left their gay identity must not be denied their Constitutional rights. To give sexual orientation protection to one group while excluding another is outright discrimination.
How do sexual orientation laws and policies discriminate against ex-gays?
Ex-gays and their supporters live in an increasingly hostile society where they are labeled as perpetrators of hate against gays simply because they advocate for or live out a different view of homosexuality. Since the early 1990s, gay activists have created a public environment where everyone who does not accept that homosexuality is as normal, natural and healthy as heterosexuality is labeled a “bigot” whose attitudes equate to racism. Alternatives to homosexuality are interpreted as “harassment” of gays, even though the individuals seeking to leave behind their unwanted same-sex attractions are merely exercising a freedom to reaffirm the gender of their birth.
Individuals have experienced homosexuality differently in their lives. If a gay person’s sense of well-being is dependent on all other people with same-sex attractions having had the same experience that they did, then that person is in a dangerous place. In fact, this is what has caused persecution of ex-gays.
In this climate of intolerance against ex-gays due to their very existence, support for the ex-gay community is interpreted as hate against homosexuals. Courageous men and women who have left their homosexual identity must not be denied their Constitutional rights. To give sexual orientation protection to one group while excluding another is outright discrimination.